Friday, August 21, 2015

Ashley Madison (sucks if that's your actual name)

“Hold faithfulness and sincerity as first principles.” ― Confucius, The Analects

WELL WELL. The Ashley Madison hack that exposed the identities of 37 million users of this "dating" website is all the talk! As you know, unless you've been hiding out in a cave somewhere (tempting though that sounds, I must say), this "dating" website caters to those who are married or in an otherwise committed relationship who want to hook up to have an affair. 

BTW: I bet any young women who happen to be named Ashley Madison (christened as such by mothers who simply couldn't resist being sooo trendy) are hating it right about now. The teasing they're likely having to endure!

One of my virtual village residents made the point that other people's sexual proclivities aren't anyone else's business unless they've sort of built their brand, so to speak, on they're Christian "morality." On the other hand, eeewwww.

Apparently, the highest concentration of "users" (ooo, good word) are in the Washington DC area.

Sent to me by several virtual village residents!

This from the Washington Post.

Rich D.C. residents like to cheat on their spouses, according to dating Web site for cheating spouses

By Perry Stein
May 20, 2015

The District once again lives up to its TV drama-concocted reputation.

The city topped a list ranking the country’s most adulterous cities for the third year in a row. The dubious title comes courtesy of, a dating Web site for married people looking for extramarital affairs, which culled through its membership data to determine which cities have the most members per capita.

Ashley Madison claims to have more than 59,000 people registered on the site with a D.C. Zip code. (Note: This does include people who register for the site while visiting D.C. using a city Zip code.)

And the neighborhood with the most cheaters? Capitol Hill, the land of politicians, staffers and lobbyists.

The dating Web site says 10.4 percent of Capitol Hill residents are registered on the Web site. Tenleytown and Takoma Park finished second and third, respectively. With the exception of Capitol Hill, all of the top 10 D.C. neighborhoods are in the Northwest portion of the city, with the majority of the neighborhoods in affluent upper Northwest.

Where D.C.'s adulterers reside

Membership to the Web site is free for women and costs men $49 for 100 credits on the site. Those credits are then used as currency to do things on the site like send a custom mail-message, initiate a chat session, send a priority message, and send virtual gifts.

Back in 2012, Noel Biderman, chief executive of Avid Life Media, which owns Ashley Madison, told The Wahington Post that he saw a correlation between much of the professional success on Capitol Hill and adultery.

“First, most people who achieve a level of success do so from taking professional risks that for the most part pay off, and this underlying personality trait may then lead these individuals to take personal risks, as well,” he said at the time. “Second, cheating is directly correlated to opportunity. The more successful you are the more you tend to travel for work and pleasure, and more often removed from your family, interacting with individuals with whom commonalities surface.”

Nationwide, Pittsburgh and Austin finished second and third on the list of cheaters.

Here are the 10 cities with the highest rate of membership on the site:

1. Washington, D.C.

2. Pittsburgh

3. Austin

4. New York

5. Boston

6. Los Angeles

7. Las Vegas

8. New Orleans

9. Houston

10. San Diego


  1. Yeah, I'm not a big fan of outting people like this, except perhaps, as you say, the ones telling us we're naughty. Okay, the one. Two pieces of info came to me - I can't vouch for there veracity though. One was that the hackers claim to have done the deed in order to show 1) the government folks who should have been working and were too dumb to open a gmail or yahoo account and 2) that 95%+ of the folks who sign up are men. Most, if not all of the women are fake accounts. So they said - if your partner is on the site, the chances that he scored are minimal to none. Somehow I don't think that will save a lot of skin. The spouses of those who cheated have also been humiliated and that will impact their action and the way they are treated. Oh, by the way, I heard that Josh Duggar paid an additional $450 for a guarantee that he'd have a hookup within 3 months. For what it's worth, that speaks of desperation.

  2. Interesting, Liz. I hadn't read that 95% of those registered are men. I suppose that's not surprising. I don't know when it is and isn't right to ought someone. It often seems that when something awful is exposed, say for example, the Jared Fogle situation, we learn belatedly that it's been going on for quite some time, and one wishes he'd been discovered (or outed as it were) much sooner.