Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Frank Bruni's father

“My father said there were two kinds of people in the world: givers and takers. The takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.” — Marlo Thomas

I ADMIRE many of the opinion writers at The New York Times. I enjoy Gail Collins columns, and if I had a style (which I doubt), and if I were hubristic enough to say that any NYT writer reminded me of me, it would be GailShe makes me laugh, but Frank Bruni always gets me in the heart. I'm sharing his April 15 column because it's just so lovely.

Frank Bruni
My Father’s Secret

By Frank Bruni
April 15, 2015

ATLANTIC CITY — Dad had a twinkle in his eye.

“Wait until you see this trick,” he told me. “This secret. You’re guaranteed to make money. I’ll show you when we sit down at a table.”

A blackjack table, he meant. Dad loves blackjack, especially with my three siblings and me, and we’ll circle a casino floor for an hour just to find a dealer with enough empty seats for three or four or all five of us, so that we can have our own little cabal.

He inducted us into the game decades ago, in Vegas, and we continued to play over the years, because it was another excuse and another way to spend time together: our ritual, our refuge.

Before last weekend, we hadn’t played in a long while. But for his 80th birthday, he got to choose the agenda for a weekend out of town. He picked blackjack. And he picked Atlantic City, because it was closer than Vegas and good enough.

It’s funny how modest his desires can be, given what a grand life he’s lived. He’s the American dream incarnate, all pluck and luck and ferociously hard work and sweetly savored payoff.

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  1. *Tears* I can see why you look up to him. He writes well and loves even better. Thank you.

  2. He's my favorite NYT writer for exactly the reason you say.